How the spirits can help your life

How the Spirits Can Help You with Your Life

Last year, my dear friend, Julie, was in dire straights. She had just been dumped by another guy, a powerful Hollywood agent who had, quite honestly, ignored her and her needs quite a bit.

She came to me and asked for help. Her pattern with men had been a miserable one. She met and married a rock superstar ten years prior, and their five-year marriage finally ended when he admitted that he’d been having an affair the entire time. For her, the worst of it was that there had been many others and she hadn’t known.

How could I not have known?

Julie lamented.

I shrugged. Whatever pattern you’re doing, it is in an attempt to heal something. So there is a good reason. If you’re dating cheaters, someone cheated in your history or had a fear of it. Julie shook her head. My parents are happily married – forty years happy! It can’t be that. I was referring to her mother’s mother.

What about your grandmother?

I didn’t know her. She died when I was three.

In that moment, I felt a powerful presence. It was Julie’s grandmother. Her message was clear: Don’t make the mistakes I did.I went on to relay to Julie the message from her grandmother. She had married a man who cheated on her for her entire life. She didn’t want that to be Julie’s fate. She wanted Julie to have better.

 

I have no way of finding out if this is true.

Julie said.I don’t know if that matters here.

I said. What is important is that you keep leaving the cheaters, and your grandmother never did.

In my experience in working with multi-generational healing like this, the inherited challenge always skips a generation. If you’re lucky enough to have a grandparent alive, find out their story. Often we are playing out the healing that they never could do.

Julie made this connection instantly, but she wanted to be in a relationship. She pointed to the Divine Love Intention Candle Kit that sat behind me.

I guess I need that, don’t I?

I disagreed. If anything, the Healing Intention Kit would be more appropriate to quickly clear the remnants of this pattern.

In the reading, Julie’s grandmother gave her permission to no longer have to work on healing this family wound. It was done. She was proud of Julie for leaving a situation that was intolerable. As a result, she told Julie to find a man who would be dedicated to her.

This story has a wonderful ending. Julie agreed with me and worked with the Healing Intention Candle Kit, as well as her therapist. Six months later, a guy she had been friends with for over a decade phoned her. They had always been crossing paths, but the timing was never right…he in a relationship when she wasn’t and vice versa. This time, however, they were both free. In one phone call, he announced his true feelings for her. He’d loved her for years.

Twenty-four hours later, he was on a plane from Vancouver. They have not been separated since.

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-Tori

Who Will Our Next President Be?

I was interviewed on a conservative radio program, and then, on a liberal radio program. Same day. Same question.

Who will our next president be?

“You’re psychic,” they say. “Tell us your prediction.”

Now, for some folks, the pressure would be on. Nerves, you know?

“It doesn’t really matter all that much, does it?” came my reply. And I meant it.

Whoever is sworn into office in January 2009 is going to have the toughest four years of his life. This is not some mild pickle we’re in. An entire nation has lost morale. There is a general pallor that has shaded over people. The planet is rebelling.

And I’m supposed to step up and be positive?

As a nation, we’re in a situation akin to standing on the beach before a tsunami or thinking Hurricane Katrina is just a passing shower. Energetically, a storm’s a-brewin’.

So, what do you do?

Understand that the planet is like a person. It has been warning us for a while.

Ever notice that when you don’t get a lesson it just keeps on coming? I know that’s true for me. If I don’t want to see something, I can very effectively stick my head in the sand. And it works! Really well. For a while.

We can’t do that anymore. We can’t blame one person in one office. We can’t possibly believe that any one person is going to change the tide. It has to be a whole mess of us. The whole lot. When you hear folks, like Joe Vitale, say meditate – do it. Immediately, we have to start imagining a better world and creating it.

Visualize peace and security. Bless the president…whoever it is. Let’s stand for something again.

It doesn’t matter who our next president is going to be.

Remember, we have set up our leaders to be poker players. There is no way we can read what is really going on behind the façade. It’s time to stop the don’t-blame-me-I-voted- for-so-and-so game and face our mess. We have four years of clean-up ahead of us. Yes, all of us.

When the tsunami hit or Katrina was in full force or the towers were in rubble, I can pretty much guarantee not ONE person was concerned about the President of the United States. That came later, after survival and shock.

Then we began to place the blame, because it’s not as frightening as the realization that something so devastating can happen randomly. It’s easier to blame than to sit with the pain and loss. It’s easier to blame than to think we had done something bad to deserve tragedy.

Ask anyone who worked for the Red Cross during Hurricane Katrina, and they’ll tell you that Wal-Mart trucks carrying free supplies reached the victims before our own government.

Here’s another risk. Ready?

We choose our lessons, but not how we will learn them. Want patience? You’ll encounter long lines. And the list goes on. No one prays for a disaster. People pray or wish for things, but sometimes, the road there is uncomfortable.

I knew a woman who prayed for a happy marriage, and her husband left her. Now, after going through hell and back over that loss, she is finally happily married.

The moral? We create what we need. Think long and hard about what we have created.

My thoughts? Our planet is crying out in pain. We may not have “started” it, but with knowledge comes responsibility.

Let’s all begin to pray for love and unity. That is the way we find one another again after a disaster. Let’s not be attached to the person in the White House. Let’s be attached to love and healing.

So we’ll all wake up on a Wednesday this November and find ourselves with a new regime. No matter which lever you pull, make a firm commitment to be in this together. All of us. Then, whoever is in the White House rolling up his sleeves can turn to us to for help.

Namaste.

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-TORI

Faith & Hope: What Is Real?

Faith and Hope

I met someone the other day at a party who was in so much pain, it radiated from his core.

His mother had been a cult leader in the 1970s and today, he does not believe in psychics or healers or anything that can’t be proven. I understand the skeptics. To be honest, I’ve been one myself.

I’m the reluctant psychic, the person who never knows if “it” will work every time I sit down to do a reading. (But it always does.)

To explain this, you have to understand that I’ve spent much of my life desperately trying to hide this “gift” that I have. Because of personal insecurities, I never wanted to invite challenge from the skeptics.

So, of course, the week I started reading professionally, I was hanging out with a few actor friends, and one guy got wind of my new career and stared me down.

“What makes you so qualified?” he asked.

There I was…put on the spot…a deer in the headlights.

He shook his head, “Do you really believe this shit?”

I was terrified. What was I doing? Did I really believe it? Then, a calm came over me. A little voice said, be honest, tell the truth.

“Not really,” I responded.

It caught him off guard, but not for long. “Then how can you do this crap?”

“I don’t know,” I told him. “I don’t really believe it, I just know it.”

“That doesn’t make sense,” he responded. His arrogance was annoying.

“Most things don’t.” I stated as I leaned toward him. “You know what doesn’t make sense?” I asked. “What doesn’t make sense is that you’re an arrogant a**hole, and you’re going to be really famous for being an arrogant a**hole.”

I ran into him about a year ago. He’s a celebrity now. And yes, his character is a big, arrogant…you get the idea.

The only thing I can say for this guy is that he’s not afraid and never was. He’s confident.

But when I think of the guy I met at the party, he’s confrontational and afraid.

There is a BIG difference between these two people. One is scarred by his past. The other is congruent within himself.

Where am I going with this?

Well, the guy from the party thinks all psychics are bogus. He has all kinds of reasons for this. When I told him that he had a right to his opinion, he replied that it was reality, that he was rooted in reality.

What I find so sad is that the only way he can deal with his family scarring is to overcompensate the other way and completely deny the presence of anything he can’t prove.

It’s obvious that it’s about his mother, but he can’t see it. Ironically, as his mother converted hundreds of thousands of people to follow her channeled message, the one person who lacked faith was her own offspring.

My faith has gotten me through some pretty rocky times lately, and honestly, I do not know how anyone can survive without faith.

Family scarring is powerful stuff, and I’ll be writing more about it. Living without faith is a lonely business, and I can’t see living this way.

My message to you? Believe. Believe in something magical. And if you have trouble with it, think of something that inspires you. Right now, before you forget, make a list of ten things that inspire you. If you can’t think of 10, write five, or even, two.

Faith is the only thing that is real to me.

Hard Sell; Don’t Sell Your Self Short

Pet Peeve

Ready?

My pet peeve is the hard-sell.

A few months ago, my friend Morey offered me a chance to buy a table at one of his networking meetings. It was $100 for the night, and we “sponsors” would spend the evening introducing ourselves and our products.

Okay. So the yuck factor was high for me on this. I am a psychic. Can you imagine my pitch? Hi, I’m a psychic…I work with people to transform their lives…blah blah blah.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I love what I do, and I find it very rewarding. I love my clients. I’m very blessed. But typically, I’m not someone who sells my wares at fairs or carnivals. I’ve designed my products to work personally with the people who own them. The people who are attracted to my work are driven to create something extraordinary, and they find the key in an Intention Candle or piece of Chakra Vortex Jewelry.

That said, I let Morey sell me. I truly didn’t want to do this, but he’s a master salesman.

So there I was at this event, and every city slicker was there. I mean, we had the snake oil salesmen and people offering the LAST CHANCE at property. Then there was the guy who would mentor you for about $10,000, because if you really wanted transformation, you could ONLY work with him.

Finally, the slickest of the slick got up to address a packed room. The pitch began…sad childhood, no money, worked his way through college, lost everything in the dot.com crash, wife left him, etc.

Then, he found a mentor who showed him the way out.

After two hours (no kidding), he started the hard-sell: If you want change, it’s not eight thousand dollars… not four thousand…no, for you who sign up tonight, and there are only 15 slots, it’s eight hundred dollars…that’s right…how much is all this worth?Half the room had left by that time, and then the lights came up, and I was astonished to see 15 people rushing to the table to sign up for this mentorship program.

I turned to Morey.

“What the…?” I asked. “It feels really phony.”

“But it works,” came his reply.

No. I thought. No. You missed the point. Who cares if it’s effective if it’s not ethical and you’re snowing people?

Don’t get me wrong…I really admire some of the hard-sell gurus. I love their work, but I don’t believe that anyone has my answer.

And when I tell people that the hard-sell thing doesn’t feel right, they hold up a hand and say, “If you want to sell your products, you have to ask people for their business.”

But I think there comes a time when we have to say no to the hard-sell. Customers are smart, and it’s only a matter of time until they catch on.

For example, in the late 1980s, I traveled the country and did personal appearances in department stores. I had written a fashion style book and often spoke to crowds about the latest trends. Within a few years, every clothing label began sending out reps and calling them “special appearances.” That killed that business.

Later, I was invited by a major gossip magazine to give negative commentary about the way people dressed. I couldn’t do it. I don’t like hurting people, even people I don’t know.

My editor was aghast, “What? We could sell thousands of copies of the book!”

Maybe. But it wasn’t authentically who I was. It wasn’t me.

So maybe the guy who sold those 15 people had no problem sleeping at night. People sell out every day.

But don’t do it. Don’t sell who you are. Stand for something, or you will stand for nothing. Be true to you. Be a person of honor. It still matters.

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-Tori

Fear: Ride The Wave

Waiting for the Wave…

A client phoned the other day worried about the business decisions he’d made. He was in upset because he’s been at a job that he termed “an under-earning situation.”

I reminded him that during the past year he left a 20-year marriage and was confused and disoriented when he first took that job. He did not make a bad decision, he made the best one at the time. Who he is today is someone that doesn’t fit there.

“What do I do?” he asked.

“Wait for the wave,” I said.

“Huh?”

I laughed with him. Sometimes, being psychic is a strange experience.

A few weeks ago, I was out with a few friends. We were chatting and then, out of nowhere, I turned to the bartender and asked when he was leaving for Fiji.

He shook his head and asked me, rather confused, “Do I know you?”

I had pulled an “oops.” Sometimes without knowing it, spirit talks to me and I think that I’ve had a conversation with someone, when in fact, we’ve never met. I try to keep this at a minimum to avoid freaking people out. I’ve learned to ask questions.

This guy was in a similar place to my client, Pete. He didn’t know what to do, if he should go. There were a few variables.

He was a surfer. I asked him what he did after he paddled out on his board.

“I wait for the wave” he replied.

I waited. He nodded and got it instantly.

Teasing, I said, “So you don’t wonder what you can do to make the wave come or if there ever will ever be another wave in your lifetime or if…”

He waved for me to stop, laughing, and then shrugged as he wiped down the bar. “It always comes if you wait long enough.”

When we are lost, the key is to wait it out. I’m not talking about doing nothing.

I’m saying that after we make our request to the universe to give us signs (and I often ask that they be billboards, so I don’t miss them), we have to wait for the answer…or the wave.

And here’s another part to the surf analogy: when you ride a wave, it’s the only zone you can be in at that time. You must be present. Your entire being must be in it.

We are always doing the best we can in any given moment, but remember this: even for a surfer, no one can expect to be in balance at all times. Life is about being out of balance and stepping back into it.

Remember that no matter what is going on in your life, you must determine where you are and how to get into the zone.

Are you:

Turning the board into position?

Paddling?

Are you too early? Are you unprepared?

Are you too late? Did you miss this wave?

Are you up? Did you catch the wave?

Wiping out?

Riding the wave?

In the barrel?

Coming to shore?

Here’s how to bring yourself into alignment no matter where you are:

Getting into position? You may be changing directions and not sure how to do this next part. This is change.

If you are paddling, focus on the next intended action. Keep paddling.

Scrambling for the wave? Slow down and take stock. Is the moment right? Check for typos, so to speak. Look for mistakes that make you look unprepared. If you feel a panic right now, you may be trying to gain momentum in something that’s not ready to happen.

Miss the wave? Forget this part. Don’t dwell on it. It’s wasted time. That was not your wave, not your moment. “If I had bought that property five years ago…” Well, you didn’t. Timing is everything. Again, accept that wasn’t your wave.

Did you catch it? Check within. Where are you? What are you truly feeling? Get excited. This is your moment. Try to relax. Often we confuse excitement with worry.

Wiping Out? Yeah, go ahead and chuckle. It’ll happen. Get back on the board and paddle.

Are you riding the wave? In the barrel? Smile, enjoy and have fun. Feel the exhilaration of this time. Be in the moment. You are in the zone. This is the reward.

Coming into shore? How will you step off your board? Will you fall? Crash into shore? Slide into shore? Go back out? Take a break?

No matter what phase you’re in, there is a different approach to each. It is easy to see that waiting for the wave is the place to do nothing but meditate. This is when the universe is going to send you someone or something that will get you up and running again.

And take heart. This is a cycle we’re all on. And once you know where you are, you can determine what to do. Each place has a very real action. Rest assured that you are in motion, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

Tori Hartman Spiritual Guidance

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